I’m going to be completely and totally honest with you guys. I am failing at my work // life balance. Maybe not failing to you, to Colton, or to my family, but to myself, I am failing. I think as human beings we’re naturally hard on ourself. We expect ourselves to achieve great success in everything we do. For me it’s achieving success in my job, and in this blog. As well as making everyone around me happy. Being the best sister, girlfriend, friend, dog mom, daughter, blogger, stranger, sales person, and marketing person.
It’s exhausting and I know that I am not the only one who feels this way. I have a day job that takes my full attention Monday – Friday. Then I have this blog, which is my baby and my passion that takes almost all of my time in between. Which in result, is leaving little time for my life.
One thing that has always been very hard for me, is being able to say no to people. Because I want to say yes to everything! I want to please everybody and make everybody happy. It’s like I am scared of the word no. That if I say “no” that I will hurt peoples feelings or make them hate me.
So recently, I have been practicing saying no, and it has made my life so much easier. I feel more at ease and it has helped me to start finding my balance. Saying no has helped me to even try to start balancing my work and my life. Saying no to certain projects, dinners, parties, functions and collaborations have given me more time to do what is really important to me. Important things as basic as eating dinner and watching a TV show with Colton. If I know I have to finish a blog post after work, I’ve learned that I can’t get coffee with a girlfriend, finish my post, and be ready to spend the evening with Colton. Adding blogging into my life has been especially hard for me because I am still so new. I want to take on everything, but I can’t. I want to make this the best blog possible, but I also can’t let my day job slack & ignore my personal life.
So there, I’m trying to find my balance. So bare with me, okay guys? I wanted to talk about this with you guys today because it has been really heavy on my heart and I know that you all can relate.
My suggestion, is learn to accept that you can’t make everyone happy. Learn that saying no won’t make you a terrible person. When deciding what to say no to, really prioritize everything you have on your plate. Out of every commitment, which one would relieve the most stress by saying no to and out of every commitment which one will make you the happiest by saying yes to?
You have to do what is right for you and it’s all about finding that balance.